As I read through various twitter, facebook and blog posts, I see the complaints of various female and male socialites about the dating scene here in DC. This same disdain with the dating scene extends to other cities as well. Various people from different backgrounds, all having a yearning for courtship from persons of the opposite sex. Some looking for a life partner, some a quick fix, and others just someone to snuggle up with on a cold winter night.
However, the question I ask is, when is the right time? Right time for what you ask? Maybe I should be a little more specific. I am speaking from a male perspective, so I ask. When is the right time to approach a woman? I hear various women boasting that their male counterparts aint ish, and vice versa. People so upset with their social status, that they proclaim that they aren't dating ever again. Some looking for movement in a stagnant dating situation, left wondering what the next step is.
At the same time that I read and hear these various expressions of disappointment, I hear a large number of complaints about things we guys have nothing to do with! For instance, many people tweet when they hit the city night scene on the weekends, just as I do. It isn't until the next morning that I am able to go back through, and read everything that has been said about the happenings of that night. Some people are so expressive that, I almost feel like I was there. The funny thing is, people will tweet about the persons that have approached them for a drink, a dance, or even some conversation. Such comments like, "back away mini-me", "Grandpa, I am not interested in a Sugar Daddy", and "Watch out for the big girls", all come across my Twitter timeline.
The fact of the matter is, the same people that are looking for someone to get involved with, are shooting people down left and right. Now, my no means do I feel a person should settle, but give a brother a break. I mean really, calling the man mini-me? I'm sure he didn't elect to be 5'7", or start to lose his hair. If it were up to us men, we'd all be 6,3", with a full head of hair, clear skin, and beach bodies. Some things we just don't have control over. The funny thing is, most of the women complaining about height are shorter than 5'3", LOL. Like really?
Now, I know I have gotten off topic for a minute but, I ask again. When is the right time? If I just happen to be walking in the grocery store one evening, looking for my spaghetti sauce, and see a fine specimen of sheer beauty just at the end of the aisle, am I not allowed to approach her because we are in the store? Or what if we are on the train headed to work? I may not ever see you again. Or what about on Saturday morning when you are walking your dog, or picking up the dry cleaning? How about after church, as we pass the ushers? Do, we have to be in a social setting? Every time I hear about a brother approaching a female in a setting other than a social setting, he's getting shut down. It could be as simple as a morning "hello". The general response is "move it or lose it", LOL.
So, I ask for the question for all who want to know... When is the right time?
Please reflect!
There's no such thing as the "right time"-- noone is going to say the 2nd sunny Thursday of every other month at 2pm. Sometimes, it's the approach that shuts down the advance. For example, if a guy approaches a woman in the grocery store (which by the way is acceptable), but talks to her breasts instead of her face, chances are good if she's offended by that, he might get shut down. Other times, the situation demands a shut down. For example, at church during prayer is not the time to be trying to chat someone up (and yes, that happens). Also, it's much easier to express your thoughts on twitter/facebook than it is live. A lot of times when a person is approached, there might be something immediately noticeable that their mind points out. Usually, it's not said to the person's face. Twitter/facebook provides the outlet to express that, if not exaggerate it. However, the thought or typed expression doesn't necessarily mean that the person is/was dismissed. And then dealing with immature, self-hating, intoxicated, or mean-spirited (lol) people extends this conversation even further. But, i won't go there. Those are my thoughts.
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